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Wednesday 20 June 2012

Just a Mom..

I'm not much of a blogger.. I LOVE reading blogs, just not a whizz with words & quite simply don't have the enthusiasm to blog (wish I did), until something catches my attention gets my goat!

After a busy morning with my kids, followed by an afternoon fighting for good behaviour whilst running errands,  It was roughly 4pm & I felt a sigh of relief as I pulled on my drive. 
The thought of sitting down for the first time today & switching my lovely pink laptop on to catch up on the goings on in the world bought a warm feeling inside.
I am a surf-a-holic!  Its my vice in life, namely Pinterest where I can get lost & convince myself that I've done a full days work "researching" beautiful projects for the home that will possibly never come to fruition, (at least not while I have the kids at home to keep me busy).

Anyhoo, my back was up the minute I read todays headlines thanks to "politically Correct" Cherie Blair.  I would say, if you ask most Brits what their opinion of the woman is .. it would NOT be good!

I just had to share my thoughts on the offending article-

Cherie Blair attacks yummy mummies who choose children over careers!

How can she tar every Mother with the same brush?!  Does this woman have any morals?
It begs the question, what was her own relationship like with her Mother?

Anyone who knows me, knows I am not the most maternal of woman.. my better half may even tell you I'm more maternal with our "other girls" (the K9 variety), but a Mothers roll is so important!
I do not banter to the kids demands, I am not a hard woman by any means but I do not want my children to grow up to be brats. 
My children are no more "dependant" than the next kid, but I do give them the security they need & shower them with love & devotion. 
I want my children to be educated & do well in the world, Its sure gonna be harder on them then it was on me growing up!

Reading Cherie's article really blew a fuse!  It reminded me of my husbands favorite quote
A few years ago before my daughter came along, I was made to feel like a failure by a very rude & over opinionated woman who told me that I was selfish for not letting my son go to anyone's home without me (Henri was almost one at the time), she proclaimed that I would be making a rod for my own back & cause Henri to be "clingy & antisocial".  Well, she couldn't be further from the truth.  Our boy is four + a half now & little miss Mai just turned three.  Do you know what, people often stop me & say what happy, chatty & sociable children they are.

Henri started pre-school last September, in our home.. its a great bribe.  We use to for good behaviour "if you don't stop being naughty, you aren't going to school tomorrow".  It works a treat, he stops the mischief (temporarily).. we LOVE school in our home.  We haven't had a bad day sending him off to pre-school, its almost like he's desperate to get away from me & at four years of age, his reading is coming along great, he has NEVER had to go in time out, his teachers LOVE his manners & say he's a pleasure to have!
My daughter is due to start pre-school this September, I already have a battle every day to drag her out of school when we drop her big brother off & collect him.  She is just chomping at the bit!

I choose to stay at home with my children.. believe me, there are days when I would love to duck tape them to the wall, they try my patience but they are my most precious treasures in all the world & more importantly, our future!  So, in response to Cherie's article in which she belittles the work of a mother, I CHOOSE my children, I choose motherhood.  They are more important to me then any career right now. 



I realise other factors come into play, not everyone can afford to stay home, I used to work shifts starting at 3am, having to be up & out for 2am in a bustling International Airport.  I'd come home to a full day with the kids but it was exhausting, My husband would fly out the door as I'd walk in, like ships passing in the night (only morning) with just enough time to give him a quick peck on the cheek before he was off. 
If either of the kids were sick in the night, Steve (my better half) would be up with them only to have to do a full day on the road the following day causing him to be tired=dangerous
We get by now on a humble wage & I contribute by selling on eBay.  I am nowhere near as tired as when I worked & we spend more quality time together as a family.

Think about this, did your Mother go out to work or was she a stay at home Mom?.. how did you feel about that?
My Mom was a full time "Homemaker" & I loved adored having her around.  I hope my kids will look back with fond memories of their Mom's choice to be at home.
Please do not think that I am against working Mothers, this blog is just to voice as a stay at home Mom that I do have ambition, I dream of running my own furniture store with bespoke pieces made with my very own hands, in my very own workshop, but that can wait, for now, I am doing the most important role for me.. raising a family.

A friend of mine posted this on facebook & I just have to use it!



I, like millions of women around the world sacrifice building a career for the good of our families.
I am proud of what I do.  My role is at times, the most challenging, emotional & tiring that I've ever had, but I sure get 100% job satisfaction which I have never achieved before, & while my family is happy.. I am too.

I am, just a Mom.